"J"

Let’s face it, in every single gal’s life; we encounter a lot of people. But more often than not we encounter a certain breed we call “RV” or Relation ship Virgins. These are the kind of breeds that surface once or twice in your lifetime and they are usually worth a day or two of BUZZ.

Take J for example, He does belong to this breed Self admitted “single since birth” and well it’s not safe to say never been kissed cause in today’s world you can sleep with someone who you do not have emotional attachment too. He is a very funny and singularly gifted guy in all aspect, But with all this golden traits there is bound to be a rusty side. The only question is… On which side is Rusty?

The common traits of this rare breed are that, they easily fall in love with you. I mean I only knew him for like 1 day after that really blurry night in a club in MANGO. We met up the next day hoping to see if there is a better side to this whole thing, let say “A new perspective”.
But before that, I already told him that I just got out of a relationship, and I am not ready yet to settle down. I want to take slowly (I know it’s corny… so SUE me!). After hours of Harmless flirtation and some lips Service (literally) to my surprise that he was asking that why do I always call him “friend”. Like duh?! We are friends right? I told him that from the very start of this I already told you and set proper expectation.

So form that moment forward… I never heard from him again… So “J” the moral lesson of the story is always read the fine print of the product before you even consider wanting it for yourself. You could be disappointed.


XO
~Dhon

Cheating....

Cheating….
(What is the boundary from making friends to ruining a Relationship?)

In our society cheating or the act of being unfaithful is one of the most rampant yet silent killer of relationships. Other people are considering this as a capital offense and is worthy of a death sentence. This might sound cruel right now but you have to admit, when you experienced this or when someone did this to your closes friends you wanted to slit the throat of the bastard who did it. But really the underlying question that I have is… How do you set a boundary from trying to cheat to just plain making friends?
Society creates norms which are use as a Standard to what is acceptable and what is a taboo. But Cheating has been here since the dawn of time it is even in the bible and has been one of the best kept issues in our society. Has society already accepted the fact that human as we are, cheating on a partner is considered acceptable? What do you think? I rather believe and focus on the positive side of the people and adapt to the concept of “DO NOT GENERALIZE”. I have a friend who I know for a fact cheated on his partner and his partner is also cheating on him. But the difference between them is that my friend was so good in hiding his Affair he was never caught, NOT ONCE (AMAZING!) but his partner was the opposite. You get the picture. Now which is more Sinful?

After Days even weeks making this blog and doing my research I was able to talk to people around me and ask them what their stand on cheating is.

· Out of 10 people, 9 answered that friendship is the first step into cheating or would lead people to cheat.
· Out of 10 people, 5 answered that Cheating is a stage or a phase in a relationship.
· Out 0f 10 people, 7 informed me that he/she was a 3rd wheel once in a relationship
· Out of 10 people, 6 confirmed that they are having doubts with their partners and are just scared to
acknowledge the problem or talk to their spouse about it.

All in all this blog/article of mine is merely one of the many researches that I am trying to do in order to better understand the human behavior in a certain setting. This is article is a tool used to enlightened you with the facts and should not be a basis on how you run your relationship.

You’ll be hearing from me soon…
~Dhon

Winter: Is it finally over?

Finally, the snow has stopped and I am seeing the sunlight outside my windows. It has been weeks since my so called “Transformation” But believe me there is more to this winter then meets the eye.
Since I am going to be back in the shelves in the “singles” aisles in the department store called “LOVE LIFE” I have to find a way to pull myself together, clean the scratches and be sellable enough for any shopper to notice.

A night with the fabulous 4 (Moi, Paul, kiddie and Den) finally brought me back to my senses.
Why gloom over a Death, when you are bound to have a gret time with your friends.
Unlike some of our so called “friends” when we do have a love life, we do not “isolate the base”.
We always find a way to mix friendship with love life Period! Well enough said about that topic.
I should dedicate a BLOG about isolating the base soon. So watch out for it!
We just had dinner and did a lot of catching up to do and finally decide to continue what we had always planned to do get a haircut and hair color.
At almost ten we arrive at Talamban and went to JUN ESMA Salon and Spa, amazing place I can tell you for a fact the staff and the owner is very accommodating.
“PUFF” after 48 years and 3 hours we were finally done, my hair color is not that obvious well john’s and den as well. Kiddies Hair however was AMAZING! Loving the works K! You go girl!

So we said our goodbye’s at 12 midnight. I went directly to Mango square, to the place were breadcrumbs are all over the place, You got it right DOCE! I actually promised some of my agents that I will be there to have a drink with them and just have a really good time (See girls I was not ditching you for FUBUVILLE).So we really had a great time and for a short time I was in a different world finally I have escaped. We Drank a lot of stuff that made my head hurt, but as my old friend said “this is the only place were you do not use that head but the other one, hmmm F seems to be in a naught mood today. After being a social butterfly and just went all over the place and enjoy! I finally said goodbye to my sad old self and Welcomed the real me. One thing I can say girls “The Bitch is BACK”.

That is the same night I met “J”. We have been texting each other for a while. Exchanging quotes, angst and yes a little sarcasms. I finally realize that why not meet this person who seems t make my blood boil (just a little) with his crazy insensitive text messages. So we met at DOCE and not bad “J”. Great smile and well a little shorter than me but who am I to judge. Talked a little, flirt a little who knew that this person who gets into my nerves is actually cute. Well the Rest is History.
Which makes me wonder…? Is Winter Finally Over? Or I am just in its eye?


You’ll be hearing from me soon.

~DhOn