Men are Just Desserts

I was reading through this book entitled “Men are just Desserts” by Sonya Friedman, what the book was trying to point out aside from its eye Catching title is more or less this; In your Career and Love life, you should be the main course and after that Men are just the dessert. A reward for all your hard work and efforts, it does make sense if you think about it.

The common mistakes that we tend to make them our Sun in your solar system that is a big mistake why? What id the sun explodes? Then what? What will become of the said solar system? You will be sucked into a great black hole. What the author simply trying to tell us, and I am telling this to all Women, Man, Gay, lesbian’s or Bi’s. That Marriage should not be the finish line in your life, you can take it further and accomplish more put of you life whether it be for career, spiritual or personal goal’s. Also how having a deep personal relationship with yourself can also help you enrich your relationship with your husband or partner.

It does make perfect sense, I am sure you have heard of this from your girlfriends “How can you love someone, if you cannot even love yourself?” it practically works the same way.

The question’s that you should be answering right now is that and be honest.
· In your current relationship right now, is there a part of you that has/was buried in order to make this

relationship a success?
· Does your opinion matter in the decision makings? Or is he/she the only one making it?
· Did you sacrifice a certain career opportunities or Career goal for the sake of this relationship? (Quit a

Job, refused added responsibility in work due because you prioritize his goals, etc.)

Take time and Ponder on this? It is not too late to change. The book did not say you go and divorce your husband; find another partner there is no problem that cannot be solved with proper communication and compromising in terms of responsibility. Talk about it, BE heard and also for your part LISTEN.

So I am taking this liberty to spread the word and even possibly break the norms that we are accustomed to.
That Marriage or simply being in a relationship is not the end goal or should not be the center of you universe. YOU should be the Center of your universe and the relationship or marriage is the Reward or the JUST Dessert’s.

XOXO
~DHON