As I was re-reading theTsubasa ChroniclesOnline since i had a hard time locating the manga series online.
I stumbled upon this page which was an eye opener for me, since I am currently creating a post about a company manufacturing a strong anti oxidant. I stumble upon Wikipedia’s list of life expectancy per country and it struck me. The average life expectancy in the Philippines is 71 years after birth.
So this line made me Ponder:
And it made me question myself, are you living the life you wanted or even on the road to it?
I am now 25 years old and I am still very far from where I want my life to be. Still far from my goals in life and this post will be sort of a “note to self”
that life is too short and we need to make every second count.
We need to live for the things we believe in No Matter What!
It’s Sunday and I’m so bored. I went partying last night with friends and went home at around 8 am in the morning. Yes 8am in the morning! Don’t ask me what I was doing since Doce closes at around 6am. Details will be on another entry.
So I though I should post this picture I grabbed from a friend of a friend in Facebook. We all have regrets, both personal, professional and of course our Love lives.. Well this one mainly focuses on the Love life aspect..
Someone once said to me that the truth hurts but later on our body will learn to adopt with the pain and soon we would have learned to cope up.
Just when I thought I was free from his spell over me… I was single and Yes,Quiet happy… Then I got a message from a friend… That He is seeing an old friend of mine.. Suddenly.. after I heard the news..
These feelings started to appear out of nowhere… Love, Jealousy, Hate, Hope It started to pile up and rise from the depths of my heart With nowhere to go except in to my eyes… all these mixed emotions suddenly materialized as it was about to go out... It became tears…
Just when I thought… i was done with this chapter of my life But it seems that I am lingering still Hoping that by doing so…Another page will suddenly appear That could change the outcome…
Just when I thought that the storm was over.. I realized that the sunshine I felt was it’s eye…
Just when I thought I could start to rebuilt my life after that earthquake that rocked my world to the core.. and Aftershock came…
Just when I thought…
But I know the time will come that I can say that the storm has past or the earthquake is over... Until such time i have to be strong.. and use this time to love myself more...
Like what the story "Missing Piece meets the Big O"... I can use this time to liftpullflopliftpullflop... until i become whole.
……I wish you would understand……….. ……..that the world does not revolve around you and your feelings alone…. ….We understood and acknowledged how you felt… … At least all you could do is acknowledge ours as well… .. I know it’s not easy having conflicts... ..What more if you are in between it.. ..People already got hit with the stray bullets that are being fired by both side… ..We are tip toeing on the Verbal mine field… ..Fearing the next step, on the next day we could get hurt… ..We are not complaining, you are our friend and that’s what friends do.. ..But its starting to affect us all.. …All I can say is that... … We are willing to walk a mile wearing your shoes… …As long as you willing to walk on ours...
As I was contemplating on my work station on how many hours I slept and if I logged in at that time what time can I actually logged off from work. I opened my Yahoo Messenger and saw a very interesting status message from an old friend (Louie)
Status Message: Moral lesson: A healthy and lasting relationship consists of two whole individuals.
‘Wow.. That’s quite a mouthful..
“Hey.. Yes it! Do you want me to forward you the email that contains the story?”
“Please do… forward it to my company email add”
“It actually came from James”
Hearing that I actually laughed… Will talk about James some other time!
The story actually reminded of the book “HOPE FOR THE FLOWER”; why? It’s like reading a children’s story book.
I was amazed of the story and how simple the dialogue was yet the lesson was very powerful. That is why I decided to share it to the world…
ENJOY!
MORAL LESSON: A Healthy Relationship consist of two Whole individuals
I know that you have probably read this and this has been posted and present on the Blog world for I don’t know since time in memoriam.. Ok maybe I exaggerated a bit.. This is authored by Rick Warren of the Purpose Driven Life and entitled it “The Greatest Advice”
This compilation, along with Bob Ong’scompilation has been my source of Answer, humor and yes even enlightenment in times when I start to question myself and everything around me..
THE GREATEST ADVICE
Rick Warren, the Purpose Driven Life
Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!
Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.
To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.
To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.
Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.
Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!
When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
As I was watching SEX and the City from season 1 to 6 for the nth time, Yes I like to do some re-runs on (That’s my thing let it go!) as i was trying to wait for the next person to sweep me off my feet. I came across a line that really stuck in my head. It’s the last thing Carrie Bradshawsaid at the end of Season 6 their last Season.
“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”
Then it hit me! This is a relationship that i need to focus, "A MUST KIND OF RELATIONSHIP"...
I haven’t had a relationship with myself for quite sometime now, and I admit I miss that.
Going to the movies alone, walking with nothing but the scenery and your IPOD or my music phone.
Drinking Coffee and reading a good book and going back to my passion writing on my little black book.
Walking with friends aimlessly or just have a sit down discussion over a cup of coffee…
After the Pooh Saga that has left me devastated and made me feel as big would say it
“I’m starting to feel like that needy chick again”.
I have made a decision; I will now focus on building a relationship with myself. It does mean that I will close my door to the possibilities, but how can you create a good relationship with someone when you don’t even have one for yourself.
I have a feeling that this new relationship will make me stronger and will make me a better Person, Son, Friend and Yes! Even a partner… Soon!
I received this SMS from an old friend about Code Name: Single and I thought It was kind of harsh (Probably because I am single) at first. Then I realize the reason why I reacted to this it was because I was confronted with the truth.
Non-sugar coated came out of no-where slap kind of TRUTH.
Reality hurts and is depressing but it really is up to you if you let in prison you or set you free…
Reasons why some people are single:
Destiny Addict – Hoping and waiting for DESTINY to happen or work it’s magic
Perfectionist – Choosey with Super High Standard
BUSYBEE – Workaholic! Married to his Work (Familiar!)
Friendship Theory – “We are Friends and it should stay that way”
X to the nth Power – Has not gotten over his X or past relationship
Family Feud – Scared of his parents!
Heart Attack – Afraid of falling in love and getting hurt
A 5 year old girl and her father went into to the Beach for the weekend, while they were at the beach. Her father asked her to see what the temperature of the water was like… The little girl was glad to help, went to the water’s edge and dipped in a toe.
“I put my feet in and it was cold” she told him
Her Father picked her up and carried her down to the water again, and without any warning, threw her in. She was shocked at first, but then laughed out loud at the trick he played.
“How’s the water?” asked the father
“It’s Lovely,” she replied
“Right, from now on, whenever you want to find out about something, plunge straight in.”
Blogger's Foot Note:
While I was reading this the book slowly in order for me to digest and absorb the wisdom of it’s content. I was stuck at this story. Then suddenly I had flash backs of my past, the things that I always wanted to do with my life but is too scared or carefree. I know now that the key to success, wisdom and great fortune lies in risking.
Risking failure, disappointments, disillusion, but never ceasing in your search for Love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end.”
This line caught my attention while I was browsing through an endless and vast selection of books in Power books one hot summer day. The title of the book is BRIDA by Paulo Coelho, Probably because ever since we knew that we are destined to find our other half in life. We try consciously and unconsciously to look for that person who we will spend our life with.
The search is bout fun and scary, it produced both happiness and Sadness.
There were even several circumstances that we though we had found the one, but then realize that they are not the one. I bet there were also other circumstance were we got hurt so much that we swear to ourselves that we will turn our hearts into stones and never fall in love again.
But can we really stop ourselves from falling in love? Can we really move through life ignoring our soul mates? In the book, it said “Yes” you can pass through life not knowing your soul mate.
“We can also allow our soul mate to pass us by, without accepting him or her, or even noticing… and because of our selfishness, we will be condemned to the worst torture humankind ever invented got itself: Loneliness”
One thing I learned in the 23 years of staying here in this earth is that even if you got hurt so bad that you still bear the scars from relationships past. You might want to find time for your heat, soul and body to heal. But it is not a reason to completely shut down your heart. We all experienced pain and I can give you a medal for that. But the true test of mans courage is by standing and trying again…
" I Went out for a walk until his feet got tired.. Suddenly found himself LOST somewhere in samboan.. but Found a piece of myself in the process" - Facebook status (Dhon) Samboan Weekend Retreat
As we were having a conversation with Markee (ibeejing) and Jenny, we came across a topic that I think everybody can relate. Going out of your comfort zone and taking a risk.
I ask them both this question…
“When you know the boat is sinking…would you jump and perhaps die surviving or stay and eventually die? Me, I choose to die trying to live” – Dhon 07.07.2009
"to risk or not to risk?"
There was silence… it was a bitter-sweet realization for us. We are not getting anywhere with our love life and career life, because we were afraid. Afraid of getting hurt, afraid to fail and too stubborn to move up the ladder.
This is an inspirational Commercial shared by my Good Friend Kiddie..
We were bored waiting for the show time of the movie, DRAG me to hell which was a total bust! It was scary but overwhelmingly HILARIOUS!!! from the root word DRAG.. it was really dragging! Anyways we sat in an internet cafe and he asked me to watched a clip..
it inspired me to greatness! And i thought i will pay it forward to you guys!
hope you will also do the same.. PS: Just in case you will not be able to see the video clip here in my blog.. here is the link: Extraordinary Pantene Commercial
"Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people, who treat you right; forget about the ones who don't; and believe that everything happens for a reason. Know a good thing when you see it, and don't let it slip away. If you get a chance, take it. . if it changes your life, let it! "
Thank you sher butter for the words of enlightenment...
MANTRA
Does make sense right?
Just something that I want to share…
Hoping this will help you in your daily struggles in love and life
Everyday I watched his profile in facebook and everyday I ask myself “Should I go for it?”.
Should I invest my emotions after so many failed relationships before? Like what they said. Love is a risk everyone must take. But as a self confessed “LOVE CYNIC” i would rather want a calculated risk.
The type that I will know my percentages, this is probably caused by endless staring of excel sheets.
Everyday he has a new Journey, a new escape.
His facebook is full of pictures, trophies of his past, present and even future conquest. He has conquered almost the entire ASIAN vacation destination. The suddenly as I was watching the movie Shawshank, morgan freeman who played as “RED”. Quoted this;
“I have to remind myself that some birds aren't meant to be caged. Their feathers are just too bright. And when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up DOES rejoice...”
So maybe for now when its so obvious that he wants to be free, I will let him be.
But I will not be holding my breath, since I know that deep in my heart. The only name that he will be calling me is a FRIEND… but for now.. I will accept that, but I will always be secretly hoping that he will also take the risk of falling in love. I know I will even if it’s not a CALCULATED RISK.
